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Saturday, June 10, 2006

will BGR affect you?(re-post)

*This is what I have been observing this few years of BGR relationships and I am going to share with those who read this particular blog.
Since I graduated from my secondary school, I noticed that most of my friends were engaging in relationships. Yes, i did envy them but later, i found out that they started to change gradually.
I could still remember, we used to go out together or called one another to ask if we are free over the weekends frequently. But later on, one by one, slowly left due to the relaionships that they were having. It was obvious that all of my friends, or in fact, my best friends spent most of the time with their love ones. I can still remember, 5 of my friends gradually left one another after they engaged in relationships. It was sad for me as loniness came at that point of my life. Then I began to realize that having a BGR have the ability to change a person's character. Even now, the friends i have made have the same attitude.
Being young adults, we are the most 'active' at this point of life. Many people are starting to find a suitable partner and engage in relationships. I have always heard of people saying what type of parnter they want in life. Some prefer handsome, beautiful, rich, caring, fun-loving etc. I believe most of you have heard of. But it is important? To some or in fact most will say it is important.
But before you engage in a relationship, think twice. Will you affect your friendships with those who have come this far with you? Will you still spend the time you used to spend with them? Will you be bias? these are some of the question you need to ask yourself.
I have seen too much of this. People starts to leave their friends when they found their partners. They have no time to be with their friends anymore. And imagine that you are one of them and all your friends started to leave you. What will you feel? No one will understand this concept until they put themselves in others shoes.
When the day comes when they found themselves in a broken relationship, they will one day come back to the friends he or she used to have. By then, it will be too late. Friends are important but most people dont sees it. They will only approach their friends when they are in need. I am not saying that all those who are having a relationship are like this but true enough, this applies to the majority. I have seen too much. It is like you are being made used of when they are lonely or when they need company. But when they found their partners, majority of them just toss you side and will only call you when they are in need. Just like what I have encountered in most of my friends, they will ignore you until they are at a verge of being broke up and then, they will seek for help.
I am not saying that having a relationship is bad. But if you want to have a relationship, please make sure that you do not neglect any of your friends who are always there for you. The reason being for me to say all these is because i felt really bad for those who have been left aside by their friend. I believe most of you know what is the feeling like when you got neglected by one of your best friends. That is why we often must put ourselves in others shoes so that we will truely understand how he or she will feel when they got neglected.
For those who are currently having a relationships, think of the friends. Have you spend enought time with them? Or you just think that it is not important? This is your choice anyway. I am just writing to express how bad a person would feel when they got neglected by their friends.

eugene.

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