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Wednesday, July 05, 2006
BGR - a need to want? (Based on my observations)
I have not been writing in for quite time. A lot of things are going through my mind lately and I really wish I can slowly list them down one by one. Yes, I have been observing things that are revolving around my life lately and still, I have realized that the hottest topic among the teenagers is till the same - BGR.
If you have realized, almost every show from overseas and local, they consist of a 'relationship-story' one hand or the other. Most of the time, or in fact every show are like this. Be it action movies or any other, they will always have a blend of 'worldly love' - which what I called it to be. I wonder why. I was thinking that perhaps that this world we live in only consist of 2 kinds of being - Females and Males. And that is why such topic in shows 'cannot' be avoided. Shows like this are often 'happily ever after' and the casts are always handsome guys and pretty girls and that contribute to one of the reason why we also WANT a relationship like this. It fulfilled the 'needs' of human. Many are craving for this and thus, falling into the hole of lust. Therefore, to simplify the 'needs' I referred to earlier on, is the WANT from our lustful thoughts and our sinful nature.
To define more clearly, BGR is a topic classified under 'Wants'. And of course, 'wants' are the essential that humans think that this is what they really 'need'. So is BGR a Want or Need? Before I proceed, I would like to state that what is written here is purely based on my thoughts and my Christianity believes.
To me, a Boy-Girl relationship is a Want to be accompanied by a party of another gender. Simply to say, it is human's natural ability to be attracted of the one of opposite sex. Classified under Maslow's Hierarchy of needs, a relationship is under the third most important with regards to human life, which I agreed. In this category - Belongingness and Love needs according to Maslow, is not the primary needs, rather it's the secondary. So what do secondary needs mean? It basically means that you can still survive without having a relationship. (In this case, I am referring to BGR).
The reason for me to address this issue is that people (majority) wants to feel what are the real feelings of being loved by the one they like (which can be lust). Others might be thinking that having a boyfriend or girlfriend do impacts their life in the long terms. For instance, getting married and have children. This is a far-sighted goal, which is good. I believe it's a nightmare to those who thinks that if they are going to spend the rest of their life 'alone'. And therefore, many come to conclude that the need to have a partner to spend their life with is essential.
Frankly speaking, I personally feel that the ones who will be spending the life with you will be your friends instead of your partner. Why? It is because you came to know all your friends first before knowing your partner. It only when most found their so-called 'Mr or Ms right' then they would gradually increase the gap between their friends. Yes, again it might not be true but I am addressing to the majority.
To me, a relationship will always be a want. This is because I can still survive without a partner. You might ask, 'So what are my needs?'
My answer is simple. I believe this is also the answer that will be all of yours needs as well. That is, the Air, Water, Food and most importantly, the LORD Almighty. I am not trying to be lame or funny but serious about it. These are the Essentials! For you can't survive without them.
I admit I want a relationship; however, I do not need it. Even if I find the one, I would want it to be a Glorifying one. Frankly speaking, I have been admiring and people with wonderful relationships and I also believe many also admires too when they sees it. But to me, I think that the best way to spell LOVE is still 'T-I-M-E'.
The above context is based on my worldly views only.
If you have any comments for me, be it good or bad, please tag. Thank you.
Agape,
Eugene.
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Singapore Polytechnic, school of BE
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